Dear Tina, I have been married to my man for 6 years and we have a wonderful relationship. We met in college and dated on and off for 3 years and then finally tied the knot. We have always had a 'healthy' sexual relationship but I have found myself wanting to give him oral sex more and more. I just love putting him in my mouth and giving him pleasure. I look for any and every opportunity to give him some oral action, sometimes 3 or 4 times a day. Recently he has been unwilling to put out and I am getting frustrated that he does not want my attention.
Yesterday, in work, I got so worked up thinking about oral that I sucked off a coworker on our lunch break. I don't like the guy sexually but the circumstance arose and I couldn't resist.
Please help me, Tina. Where do I go from here?
Brenda (BJ) Jackson
Thanks for sharing, BJ, it sounds like you have a rare psychological condition called Fellatophilia, an addiction to oral sex. Some women enjoy pleasuring their man, but for you it is about satisfying your addiction primarily, which is why you got frustrated and even resorted to looking outside of your marriage (I will get to that issue shortly).
Your husband (and his penis) probably enjoy the fact that you enjoy oral sex so much, but if he is like most men, his penis does not have the kind of stamina that you need for your satisfaction. What you need to do is invest in a big bag of Dum Dum Pops so that when the urge for an oral encounter arises you can at least subdue it with a substitute and let hubby recover.
With respect to your extra-marital encounter, you need to tell your co-worker it was a one time thing and he should treasure the memory of it. As far as telling your husband, honesty is the best policy. Once he knows you have a psychological disorder and the frustrations that come as a result of it, then he is likely to be supportive and forgiving.
Hopefully you can both find a balance regarding oral sex so that you can both be satisfied without causing undue stress.
And remember what Julia Childs used to say,
Bone Appetit.
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